Isn't it Ironic...

You know that one person who claims to hate you yet you constantly find them eager to know what you're up to?  Maybe it's just me but I have a few of those… allow me to explain. I had this one friend, we had been bestfriends for a very long time… well, a new leaf turned and that leaf happened to be my so called best friend doing despicable things behind my back.  I’m not going to get into details but basically, my trust was lost and my heart was broken over the fact that my “bestfriend” could hurt me so dearly. I am a very forgiving and understanding person but there are a few types of people I will not tolerate.  

  • Liars

  • People who go behind each others backs

  • Negative/Toxic people

I’ve most definetly had my fair share of broken bonds and burned bridges in friendships over stupid things… but this gal had all of these toxic traits combined into one.  I’m not going to go into details, but basically there was no hope in rebuilding that friendship. It would be like trying to glue back together a broken glass. Things would never be the same again, the functionality of it would not be healthy, and there would be too many cracks to fix.

  So back on this broken friendship. I confronted her, expressed myself, and cut off communication completely.  This did hurt me alot not going to lie. But I knew in the end it would be what was best for me and my mental health.  You should never surround yourself with people who break your trust, make you question things, or altogether bring you down.  You’re better than that! All it takes is one flame to set things off and sometimes you have to put out the fire and move on.

  It’s always sad when bonds are broken.  Whether this be between friends, family members, or relationships. Any form of change or cut off communication can be painful… but in the end it’ll only shape you into a better person surrounded with positive energy.  So after I cut off this girl, she went absolutely ballistic on me. Some people cannot express their feelings properly without adding MANY not so kind words. I have said some things in my past that I regret but I truly have learned from them.  What good comes from nasty comments, talking behind each other's backs, or bringing people to tears? Nothing. While you may feel empowered and as though you won the battle in the moment… all you did was make someone else feel poorly about themselves. 

 Don’t waste 5 minutes of your time being cruel because it does not benefit you in any way, I promise you.  Maybe you’ve been the victim in a situation where you were bashed on with unkind words… I'm sure we've all been there.  But just remember one thing… anyone who takes time out of their day to say unkind things to you (especially with absolutely no reason to do so) those types of people are already below you. 

  Ignore any negative vibes thrown your way… I know it's hard but it's the only way you’ll be able to become the happiest version of yourself.  So after all of the drama that came with me cutting ties on this friendship, the dust settled, she was blocked, and I moved on. Thank goodness I did, because I have made some of my very best friends since then!  

People I don't feel weary or untrustworthy about, people who will always be there for you and have your back no matter what.  You need to surround yourself with people who grow with you and help you stand back up when you’ve fallen down… not kick you in the stomach and watch you squirm.  I know sometimes it's hard letting go of relationships like this, but in the end it only will benefit you and shape you into a stronger person. Basically - Don’t put up with peoples shit!  So this happened about 2-3 years ago… and since then I haven’t heard a peep from this girl. Well, besides her comments she chooses to make to other people about me… but that's fine. Let them talk shit.  Who cares? Not me, and neither should you. 

 I used to care so much about others' opinions but then I came to the realization that the only opinion about yourself that matters is your own.  Let people think what they want! “Your life isn’t yours if you always care what others think”. Think about that for a second. So now we're going to talk about why this post is titled “Isn’t it Ironic”.  WELL, funny you should ask. This girl who so-called “hates me” is also one of the first people to check my instagram story every single day, along with my blog, and I’m sure my vsco too because why stop there! Maybe she even stalks my facebook who knows.  Which is all very hilarious because she doesn't even follow me… I mean how pathetic it is that she goes out of her way every single day to look me up and see what I’m up to. “Love your haters, they’re your biggest fans.” This quote has never been more true.  Basically my whole point to this little rant was that you should never ever settle for less, question your worth, or allow negative energy to affect you.

  To the girl this blog is based on;  if you’re reading this (which you probably are)  I hope you’re doing well, honestly! I also hope that after reading this you’ve realized that you should probably find a better hobby.  Don’t focus on me so much, focus on yourself. To my readers - I hope you all took this post as a better outlook on life, happiness, healthy relationships, and the importance of knowing your self worth.  Always strive to do better, and be better. Also, remember… people like this are already below you… so rise above!

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